Rules for Mothers of Daughters

I ran across this post via Pinterest and I couldnt help but repost. I chocked up a bit reading it and I really am going to live by these words. Brynlee, I hope I can always be the best mom to you... until the end of time! 

 

Rules for Mothers of Daughters.

1. Paint her nails. Then let her scratch it off and dirty them up. Teach her to care about her appearance, and then quickly remind her that living and having fun is most important.

2. Let her put on your makeup, even if it means bright-red-smudged lips and streaked-blue eyes. Let her experiment in her attempts to be like you…then let her be herself. 

3. Let her be wild. She may want to stay home and read books on the couch, or she may want to hop on the back of a motorcycle-gasp. She may be a homebody or a traveler. She may fall in love with the wrong boy, or meet mr. right at age 5. Try to remember that you were her age once. Everyone makes mistakes, let her make her own.

4. Be present. Be there for her at her Kindergarten performances, her dance recitals, her soccer games…her everyday-little-moments. When she looks through the crowds of people, she will be looking for your smile and pride. Show it to her as often as possible.

5. Encourage her to try on your shoes and play dress-up. If she would rather wear her brother’s superman cape with high heals, allow it. If she wants to wear a tutu or dinosaur costume to the grocery store, why stop her? She needs to decide who she is and be confident in her decision.


6. Teach her to be independent. Show her by example that woman can be strong. Find and follow your own passions. Search for outlets of expression and enjoyment for yourself- not just your husband or children.  Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what others expect you to be. Know who you are as a person, and help your daughter find out who she is.

 7. Pick flowers with her. Put them in her hair. There is nothing more beautiful than a girl and a flower.

8. Let her get messy. Get messy with her, no matter how much it makes you cringe inside. Splash in the puddles, throw snowballs, make mud pies, finger paint the walls: just let it happen. The most wonderful of memories are often the messy ones.

9. Give her good role models- you being one of them. Introduce her to successful woman- friends, co-workers, doctors, astronauts, or authors.  Read to her about influential woman- Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie. Read her the words of inspirational woman- Jane Austen, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson. She should know that anything is possible.

10. Show her affection. Daughters will mimic the compassion of their mother. “I love yous” and Eskimo kisses go a long way.

11. Hold her hand. Whether she is 3 years-old in the parking lot or sixteen years old in the mall, hold on to her always- this will teach her to be confident in herself and proud of her family.

12. Believe in her. It is the moments that she does not believe in herself that she will need you to believe enough for both of you. Whether it is a spelling test in the first grade, a big game or recital, a first date, or the first day of college…remind her of the independent and capable woman you have taught her to be.

13. Tell her how beautiful she is. Whether it is her first day of Kindergarten, immediately after a soccer game where she is grass-stained and sweaty, or her wedding day. She needs your reminders. She needs your pride. She needs your reassurance. She is only human.
 

14. Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.

15. Make forts with boxes and blankets. Help her to find magic in the ordinary, to imagine, to create and to believe in fairy tales. Someday she will make her 5 by 5 dorm-room her home with magic touches and inspiration. And she will fall in love with a boy and believe him to be Prince Charming.

16. Read to her. Read her Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle. But also remember the power of Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost. Show her the beauty of words on a page and let her see you enjoy them. Words can be simply written and simply spoken, yet can harvest so much meaning. Help her to find their meaning.

17. Teach her how to love- with passion and kisses. Love her passionately. Love her father passionately and her siblings passionately. Express your love. Show her how to love with no restraint. Let her get her heart broken and try again. Let her cry, and gush, giggle and scream. She will love like you love or hate like you hate. So, choose love for both you and her.

18. Encourage her to dance and sing. Dance and sing with her- even if it sounds or looks horrible.  Let her wiggle to nursery rhymes. Let her dance on her daddy's feet and spin in your arms. Then later, let her blast noise and headbang in her bedroom with her door shut if she wants. Or karaoke to Tom Petty in the living room if she would rather. Introduce her to the classics- like The Beatles- and listen to her latest favorite- like Taylor Swift. Share the magic of music together, it will bring you closer- or at least create a soundtrack to your life together.

19. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let her tell you about boys, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. She is not only your daughter, you are not only her mother. Be her friend too.

20. Teach her manners. Because sometimes you have to be her mother, not just her friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

21. Teach her when to stand-up and when to walk away. Whether she has classmates who tease her because of her glasses, or a boyfriend who tells her she is too fat- let her know she does not have to listen. Make sure she knows how to demand respect- she is worthy of it. It does not mean she has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence. Also make sure she knows which battles are worth fighting. Remind her that some people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help her to understand when to shut her mouth and walk-away. Teach her to be the bigger -the better- person.

22. Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words: she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.

23. Mother her. Being a mother—to her—is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with her the joys of motherhood, so one day she will want to be a mother too. Remind her over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love her like you love her. No one can replace or replicate a mother’s love for their children.

24. Comfort her. Because sometimes you just need your mommy. When she is sick, rub her back, make her soup and cover her in blankets- no matter how old she is. Someday, if she is giving birth to her own child, push her hair out of her face, encourage her, and tell her how beautiful she is. These are the moments she will remember you for. And someday when her husband rubs her back in attempt to comfort her...she may just whisper, "I need my mommy."

25. Be home. When she is sick with a cold or broken heart, she will come to you: welcome her. When she is engaged or pregnant, she will run to you to share her news: embrace her. When she is lost or confused, she will search for you: find her. When she needs advice on boys, schools, friends or an outfit: tell her. She is your daughter and will always need a safe harbor- where she can turn a key to see comforting eyes and a familiar smile: be home.

To my daughter- I promise to always "be home" for you.

It's a.....

And we couldnt be more excited! Our sweet baby Beckham is doing great and looked amazing! I love watching him grow. I am so grateful to be able to experience the best of both worlds and know what its like to have a mama's boy! I would of loved for Brynlee to have a sister but a little brother will be just as awesome, I know it! We are teaching Brynn how to say brother and Beckham... she is picking up words so quick these days, we figure those can be the next two! Ryan was showing her brother to my belly last name and she was digging her finger in my belly button... maybe she was trying to feel him?? Haha! Silly girl :)

Anyways, we had the name Beckham picked out for quite a while. Its not a family name or have any background to it, we just simply loved the name! Brynlee and Beckham, our two little loves for the rest of time! We can't wait! :)

Worst blogger ever...

Let me start out by saying, I always have the best intentions to write a post, and then life gets busy and things happen, and it gets pushed to tomorrow... and tomorrow.. and tomorrow...

And that is WHY you never hear from me! So I'm sorry to all my fellow followers and bloggers out there.

I feel so guilty partially because with Brynlee I was blogging about each week (or most) of pregnancy, and all I have done so far for this babe is announce that were expecting. I also keep getting requests about weekly pictures for this babe in the belly, which I am not doing this time around either. But I do plan to take a monthly picture so more on that to come, I promise!

Everyone always told me that with the second baby, I wont do all these crazy things. And so far, they are right, haha! Its hard! One thing I really do plan to do is to take at least a monthly picture and make this babe a quilt as well. So they can both have quilts made from their mama.

So there you have it, I may win horrible mother award (only kidding) but I am TRYING. Having a baby and carrying another baby is challenging and will only get more challenging, but I am up for the challenge to say the least!

So far this pregnancy has been exactly the same as Brynlee. First trimester I felt nothing but nauseous for 8 straight weeks. I am glad to say that I think that is behind me! The last 2 weeks have been a lot better! We went for our 12 week ultrasound and everything looked awesome! Perfect little heartbeat! And the boy/girl was hyper as can be, bouncing all around. The jolly rancher pre-ultrasound didnt help I am sure :) With Brynn we were able to find out her gender then, but this baby was giving us no shot whatsoever of the goods! The nurse said at first glance, she thinks its a girl, but isnt sure enough for us to tell our family/friends. We should know next Thursday, fingers crossed!

Other than all of that business and excuses of why I havent blogged lately, life has been great. Brynlee is walking like a maniac, saying Baby, Mama, Dada, Uh-oh, Thank you, No, Yes, and Bunny. She signs more, finished/all done, play and of course no. She is fully transitioned to whole milk and sippy cup, so the bottles have been store for baby #2- this was a huge relief to put those things away. So nice! She eats pretty much everything under the sun but if she could eat fruit all day everyday, she would. She loves every single fruit she has tried including mangoes being one of her favorite, and raspberries! But bananas take the crown, she eats one almost every day. We are still working on vegetables and almost any kind of meat. Work in progress! :)

I will try and get better at blogging, I promise! In the meantime I hope you enjoyed a little update! :)